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Cross-dressing

• Q: What are your thoughts on cross-dressing? I occasionally have this desire and act on it, always in private. I call a phone sex line and tell the woman that I am wearing a skirt or panties (which I am). I know these thoughts won't go away, but what do they mean? How do I deal with them in a relationship?
  
• Dr. Klein: Cross-dressers (men who wear women's clothes, often for sexual pleasure) are usually heterosexual men who want to have sex with women. Cross-dressing can have several sources, almost always in childhood. Sometimes trauma is involved, sometimes an over-involved mother, sometimes a worshipped sister or other female figure, and sometimes none of these. Some young men outgrow this desire; in most men, it rarely disappears. Therefore, coming to terms with your cross-dressing is absolutely essential. It is not a moral weakness, does not meet you're gay, does not mean you can't be a good parent or lover. Do not try to hide this from a prospective partner; rather, let her know you have this preference, and let her get to know you for the complete person you are. If the rest of you is personable and loving, you--like other cross-dressers--will find a special someone.

 

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